Our friends Armistead Maupin and Christopher Turner exchanged marriage vows this weekend, and we flew out to San Francisco to be a part of the celebration.


The ceremony was held at the home of author Amy Tan and her husband Lou DeMattei.  The picture above was the view from their garden and the backdrop for the wedding.

The ceremony was beautiful with wonderful touches. The hosts had placed colorful Asian parasols on every garden chair to shield the guests from the sun.

When Christopher and Armistead were first dating, Christopher read the following beautiful poem by James Broughton to Armistead over the phone. The actress Laura Linney, who became dear friends with Armistead years ago when she starred in the miniseries of Tales of the City, read the poem during the ceremony. There was hardly a dry eye:



You have come to me out of the antiquities
We have loved one another for generations
We have loved one another for centuries.

You teach me to trust the voice of my voices
You teach me to believe my own believings
You touch the palpability of my possibles.

Together we reflect what our mirrors conceal
Together we upgrade the sun in our meridians
We remain open night and day to transcendence

You are incompletely disguised as a mortal
You are the eternal stranger I’ve always known
I saw your wings this morning  I saw your wings.


When you tickle my cravings
And sniff my privacies
When you douse my terror
And launch my dismemberment
I salute you in the name of
all that intimidates me
and pray for a mild winter.

But you take me apart
And put me back differently
You mend my tatters
And refasten my seams
You patch my pieces
And tie my ends up
Then you totally unravel me.

You have deranged my accounts
Unbalanced my books
Crossed my livewires
And torn up my agendas
I salute you in gratitude for
this devastation.

You are my undoing and my altogether

The entire ceremony was perfect and touching, and we wish both Armistead and Christopher all the love and joy they so richly deserve.

Of course, whenever we leave the farm for the weekend, we always look for things to remind of us home.  Given the agricultural riches of California, we didn’t have to look too far.

Cowgirl Creamery
Cowgirl Creamery

The first people we happened to talk to at the wedding were the lovely owners of the famous Cowgirl Creamery.  They make wonderful artisanal cheeses. They are our new best friends and of course we have invited them to the Beekman to give us some cheese making lessons.

Peaches on display
Peaches on display

Later in the weekend we found these peaches at the Farmer’s Market at the Ferry Building. They were as big as softballs.


I think that I shall never see, something as lovely as these beans


These type of veggies look familiar…


…But these lovely dates would have been foreign to William Beekman.


Hmmm, I may be biased, but the Beekman tomatoes may just outshine these.



We plan to start growing several different varieties of mushrooms next year.  We took copious notes at this kiosk

Despite all of these bounties of nature, I dare not stay away from the farm too long lest The Beekman get jealous.  I’m sure when we return next week, it will be ready to put on a show.  Stay tuned.

by Dr. Brent

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