At the start of any relationship, there are love letters, there are fireworks, and birds singing.

In 2008, we celebrated our 10th anniversary by buying one another the traditional gift of  “tin”.

The reason we had to cash in our life savings and take out a half-million dollar mortgage was because the “tin” happened to be the roof of a barn that just so happened to be sitting next to a 200-year-old farmhouse and 60 acres of land.

By the end of 2008 (and the beginning of the Great Recession) we had both lost our jobs and were on the verge of losing it all.

Over the holidays that year, we made a pact that whomever found a job in the city first would take it (and hold onto it) while the other remained at the farm and tried to make a go.  Thus began the “year of sacrifice” that was captured in Season 1 of The Fabulous Beekman Boys.  It was, undoubtedly, one of the most stressful, contentious years of our lives.

In the blink of an eye, one year of sacrifice stretched into five.

As Beekman 1802 grew, we found the need to hire staff but still unable to wean ourselves from a steady city paycheck and corporate health benefits.

But were they really beneficial?

Five years apart taught us each how to fend for ourselves in different ways.  While one of us forged a path in a brave new wilderness, the other learned to re-navigate an urban one solo.

While it is true that absence makes the heart grow fonder, it also makes one accustomed to setting one’s on schedule, having the entire bed to one’s self, and never having to wait for the bathroom or the shower.

There is comfort and simplicity in solitude.

But strength in numbers.

Thanks to an “Amazing” year, we are now reunited.   We’re living at the farm and finally, since the inception of Beekman 1802, working full-time together to turn our vision and passion into a successful and sustainable business.

There will be love letters, and seedlings and picnics and fireworks and harvests and scary masks, and feasts and mistletoe and snow and icicles and…birds singing.

And I am reminded of the words of another witty writer who once was seduced by the charms of Sharon Springs, too:

If you are not too long, I will wait for you all my life—Oscar Wilde

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  • By: Cindy Nicholas

    I have followed your story from the first episode until now. I wanted you guys to win the Amazing Race and along with many other fans, I found myself praying that you would.
    It was a well deserved win and showed the watchers that honerable, good men can play fair and win. Congradulations.

  • By: afalz

    Brent, what you wrote is beautiful. I, too, prefer my solitude where once I didn’t. When the time comes again and I find a new person in my life, I will have a hard time. It’s great to know that is possible to get passed it. Thank you. I passed on your (Beekman1802.com) site on my blog. I hope you will get some new fans.

  • By: Heather

    For our first anniversary, I gave my husband a copy of my journal… recollections of our first year married to one another (paper… of course). Brent, how will you and Josh count your anniversaries once you marry?

  • By: lupe Yvonne Burke

    So happy for both of you, I really think that you guys are such great people and deserved happiness and the love of all of us.. Can’t wait to see your show! ♥

  • By: Victor Yen

    Dear Brent:
    Please forgive the lateness of this note. I had the best time visiting Beekman Farm as well as Sharon Springs. You were a most gracious host, and I appreciated your taking time from your busy day to show me around. It really is a beautiful property, and it was a real pleasure seeing all the familiar sights and people in person, being a devotee of your television program. Touring the main house interior up close was a real treat as well as walking around the farm and gardens and, of course, seeing Polka Spot!
    I know how hard both you and Josh have worked to make the farm a going concern, and it shows. Since I don’t have your direct e-mail address, I’ve sent some photos to Megan and Maria at Beekman 1802 to send to you. I hope you like them. Collecting eggs still warm from the hens was also an new experience for me – I cooked them every which way I could think, and they were delicious (the yolks were so orange!) Thank you for also giving me a wheel of your Beekman Blaak cheese – I had a cocktail party, and it was the centerpiece appetizer. Being a part time caterer, I can appreciate the quality of your products, including the honey and vinegars I bought from your shop.
    Congratulations to you and Josh on winning “The Amazing Race!” That last episod was really exciting; I don’t know how you could dangle upside down that bungee cord while trying to release yourself from that straight jacket! You’re a braver man than I am. What was it with those wacky twin sister competitors of yours? You and Josh both deserved to win, and I am glad it will help toward maintaining the farm and allowing Josh to spend more time there. I hope you are having a great start to 2013, and I look forward to the upcoming new season of your show. All the best to you, and I hope to see you both again at another culinary event or book signing.
    Always, Victor Yen

    cocktail party, and it was the centerpiece hors d’oevre

    • By: Dr. Brent

      Hi, Victor

      Thanks so much for sending the photos. It was such a pleasure to meet you. I’m sure our paths will cross

  • By: Italia Patterson

    Love you both, your show and all your hard work. i hope to come up to Sharon Springs for a visit in the spring. Hopefully I can see the farm. Italia

  • By: Cynthia Carlton

    ….and being such a poet, some enterprising publisher should offer to create a compilation of all your blogs/poetry that your friends and fans having been BEGGING for! At least it would hold us over until your first book (subtle hint) comes out.
    Best always, CC

  • By: j (jpdf)

    Awww… such beautiful reflection! We are happy for you, Brent & Josh, and for all the living things at Beekman 1802! Cheers to many more years! We love you! :)

  • By: Beth Robinson

    Brent: When are you going to “take up the pen” and put all those beautiful feelings into a book? You have so much to share and a most wonderful way of expressing yourself. I am sure that many have urged you to do so … I hope that you are thinking about it.

    Love you both … you make sense in an often very crazy world!

    Beth

  • By: Gina

    I am simply (for better lack of a word) AMAZED by the Beekman Boys. I have watched the Amazing Race every season since it started and every year I have rooted for a team, disliked a team and really didn’t take time to learn much about the others. This season might have followed suit but the Beekman Boys changed my thoughts, my plans, my world. I saw two men that loved each other take the attitude of being nice and went all the to the top by plain simple hardwork, goodness, and good attitude. I also learned that two gay men are no different then the other men I look up to or admire.

    Thank you for taking your Amazing Race…a BIG CONGRATULATIONS on winning and more than that being a wonderful role model. You are truly what we need more of in America.

  • By: Shelly

    Just finished Bucolic Plague. Loved it. Can’t wait the next show of the Beekman Boys. Good luck and best wishes for 2013.

  • By: Erin

    So thrilled for you guys. It is wonderful to see your dreams come true after following you for years!

  • By: tikaa

    that was the sweetest!
    Tikaa (from Texas)
    totallytikaa.com

  • By: Bev

    I’ve been “catching up” on all of your episodes on the Cooking Channel and just wish there were more coming in the future. I just love how the show besides showcasing the wonderful farm, animals, and shop, just focus in on your relationship with it’s ups and downs just like all of us out there! Best success and keep posting.
    thank you

  • By: Micheline

    You are both so inspirational, in not giving up in the face of despair…I always feel good and in a good mood after I read either your posts or articles on your website…Thank You

  • By: ally

    aww thats so sweet and and so right,love you two and thanks !!!

  • By: Dani

    Dr. Brent, you made me tear up at work. You guys are amazing and an inspiration, love you both!

  • By: Cathy Runkle

    Thank you Both Brent & Josh, your postings like this one feel like “Love Letters” to all of the world! Thanks for the encouragement!!!

  • By: Heather

    You guys never gave up! Congratulations. Dreams really do come true.

  • By: Sue Knight

    *SNIFF*. I’m so, so happy for you guys! It’s about time you were together again full time.

  • By: Marianne Henze

    Yes, you REALLY need a sequel to the Bucolic Plague. We would all love to finish reading the story up to the Cinderella ending of paying off the mortgage and finally being together to work the farm and grow the Beekman 1802 business!

  • By: Juanita Diaz

    So happy you two finally had all your dreams come true if anyone deservered it its you two have a happy life PEACE and LOVE all ways

  • By: Rob Killian

    Love this confirmation that your relationship will survive. You guys give me hope. I have l loved watching your dreams come true. I wish the both of you and the whole enterprise a beautiful and fruitful new year.

  • By: Leah Williams

    Hope. Shakespeare said that’s all we have… But he was wrong because he had never tasted Beekman cheese or Beekman honey or Beekman onion jam… Or smelled anything made by Beekman!! HAPPY NEW YEAR!

  • By: victoria silva

    An awesome and inspiring post…a gentle reminder that each one of us who are called to leave the box… and live outside of it… have lives…dreams are made of.

    Blessings
    Victoria Silva

  • By: Andrea Wright

    I can’t wait to see what your garden will be like this year with both of you there 24/7 :) So happy you have made it to your dream and good luck!

  • By: Lisa Rebucci

    Happy New Year to both of you – remember “What we obtain too cheap, we esteem too lightly.” Hard work pays off and you have reaped the rewards. Have a wonderful 2013 together. Make it fun.

  • By: Sonja Mandt

    I am so proud of you guys. Congrats Josh for finally being able to quit your job in NYC and be home full time. I am looking forward to your new products and projects.

  • By: Jane

    Happy New Year! May it be Amazingly Fabulous!

  • By: Joan Eddy

    “I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright.
    I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more.
    I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive.
    I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much bigger.
    I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.
    I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.
    I wish enough “Hello’s” to get you through the final “Good-bye..

  • By: Lynda Wilkie-hemond

    I am really glad that you are able to stay together on the farm . I know it will be a wonderful year and I am so glad for Josh , I sure hope he writes some more,cause I love his books.

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